I thought I’d try to post something every day in the run up to Valentine’s Day, as I am a writer of romantic fiction, after all! So tonight I’ve decided to kick off with the poem that my brother read during my wedding day to my lovely husband. When I asked my brother if he’d read something, he agreed, provided it was short, and, luckily, I knew of a poem that would fulfil that requirement as well as being appropriate for a wedding! It was a poem I discovered during the year I trained as a teacher, as it was one that was used in a class I was observing. It was so powerful it stayed with me.
Kwesi Brew: The Mesh
We have come to the cross-roads
And I must either leave or come with you.
I lingered over the choice
But in the darkness of my doubts
You lifted the lamp of love
And I saw in your face
The road that I should take.
This spoke so clearly to me from the moment I first heard it. The simplicity of the sentiment, when I was on the cusp of marriage, seemed to say everything I needed to say. Getting married was the ‘cross-roads’; a decision that would affect the rest of my life, and I did think long and hard over whether or not it was choice I wanted to make. But when I thought of the love we’d shared for so long, it became very clear that it was the ‘road’ I was going to take. And it’s not always been easy. There have been bumps as well as clear runs; after all, living with someone, understanding their emotional shorthand, can be a real trial at times, as anyone in a long term relationship will know! But this poem sums up all of that in very few words, and it’s why I chose it for our wedding. It still means as much to me now, thirteen and a bit years on, as it did then. And I think my brother is still relieved it was so short!!
Oh Fay I absolutely love that poem! It’s amazing how so few words can convey something so complex and emotional. As you say, relationships can be a bumpy road at times, but if we keep the lamp lit it makes it easier to move to smoother ground. Thanks for sharing x